Why Domestic Violence Surges During the Holidays
For many families, the holiday season is a time of celebration and connection. But for others, it marks a period of heightened stress, emotional volatility, and even danger. Domestic violence often increases during the holidays, as tensions rise, financial strain deepens, and family obligations bring unresolved issues to the surface.
Amelia J. Mattis is a marriage and family law attorney in San Diego. At Mattis Law, A.P.C., we understand how serious and urgent these matters are. Whether you’re seeking protection, filing for divorce, or trying to establish safe custody arrangements, we are here to help you take the first step toward safety and stability.
You Deserve to Feel Safe Again
If you’re in an abusive situation, we’re here to help. Call Mattis Law, A.P.C. at (858) 328-4400 for immediate legal support.
Understanding Holiday Stress Factors
The holiday season places unique pressure on families, especially those already experiencing instability. Increased expectations around family togetherness, gift-giving, and celebrations can lead to heightened emotions and unmet needs. When an abusive partner already exerts control or shows patterns of volatility, these stressors can quickly escalate into physical, emotional, or psychological abuse.
Victims often feel isolated during the holidays, unsure of where to turn without disrupting family traditions or involving others. Unfortunately, abusers may use the season as leverage, knowing the victim may hesitate to seek help in front of children or extended family.
Financial Pressures and Tensions
One of the most common stressors during the holidays is financial strain. Gifts, travel expenses, lost wages due to time off, and inflated expectations around spending can put enormous pressure on a household. In relationships where control over money is already an issue, financial tension can become a flashpoint for abuse.
Victims may face threats, belittling over spending habits, or complete lack of financial control, making it more difficult to leave or seek help. At Mattis Law, A.P.C., we recognize how financial abuse intersects with physical and emotional harm, and we work to help clients regain both safety and independence.
Alcohol Consumption and Conflict
The holiday season is also a time of increased alcohol use, which can lower inhibitions and increase aggression in already volatile households. For families dealing with substance misuse, the risks of domestic violence during this time are significantly higher.
Attorney Amelia J. Mattis is trained in Soberlink monitoring, a tool that helps document and manage alcohol use in custody and safety-related cases. Whether you’re seeking supervised visitation, a restraining order, or emergency custody, we help you present a clear case supported by evidence and expert tools.
Family Gatherings and Escalation
Large family gatherings, while intended to be joyful, can often trigger deep-seated tensions. Past conflicts, control issues, or unresolved trauma may come to the surface, especially when alcohol is involved or expectations are high.
Abusers may act out more severely when they feel their authority is challenged, when they fear losing control of the family dynamic, or when they’re trying to maintain appearances. In these moments, threats, intimidation, and violence can escalate rapidly.
Victims may feel they have no way to remove themselves or their children from a situation without causing a public scene or upsetting relatives. Our firm provides legal strategies that prioritize your safety and give you the tools to act quickly and effectively.
Seeking Help and Moving Forward
Recognizing abuse is the first step. Acting on it takes strength, and we’re here to support you. Whether you’re ready to leave or just want to know your options, we offer judgment-free legal advice grounded in experience.
We can help you:
- File for a domestic violence restraining order (DVRO)
- Seek emergency child custody orders
- Secure temporary spousal or child support
- Begin divorce or legal separation proceedings
- Protect your financial interests while you transition
No one should feel trapped or helpless during the holidays. If you’re in a harmful situation, we can help you move forward.
Victims of Domestic Abuse
Victims of domestic violence often experience a cycle of control, fear, and guilt that makes it difficult to leave. This is compounded during the holidays by pressure to maintain appearances or fear of disrupting children’s holiday experiences.
At Mattis Law, A.P.C., we work closely with victims to understand their concerns and provide real-world legal solutions. From securing safe housing and emergency protection to managing custody and support, we’ll be here for you for the long haul.
Creating a Personalized Safety Plan
If you are in an abusive relationship, a personalized safety plan can help reduce risk and guide your next steps. This may include:
- Identifying safe locations to go in an emergency
- Packing important documents, medications, and essentials
- Establishing code words with trusted friends or family
- Keeping digital communications secure and private
- Gathering legal paperwork and financial information discreetly
We help clients think through what they may need in a crisis and how to position themselves for a safer, more stable transition.
Emergency Legal Help for Victims of Abuse
Mattis Law, A.P.C., can help you seek court protection and secure your safety. Call (858) 328-4400 for a free consultation today.
Breaking the Cycle of Violence
Breaking the cycle of abuse is rarely easy, but it is possible. It begins with education, support, and a legal strategy that puts your safety first. Amelia J. Mattis is committed to helping clients understand their rights and taking the legal steps necessary to protect themselves and their children. From initial restraining orders to full custody proceedings and divorce, our firm stands with survivors every step of the way.
How an Attorney Can Help
At Mattis Law, A.P.C., our firm coordinates with experts, including therapists and financial professionals, to build a comprehensive support network tailored to your needs. We offer the guidance and representation needed to help you:
- Get temporary or long-term protection from abuse
- Safely exit a marriage or domestic partnership
- Create child custody and parenting plans that prioritize safety
- Secure temporary or permanent support to maintain financial stability
- Navigate legal proceedings with as little stress as possible
Filing for Divorce
Filing for divorce in an abusive relationship often requires added caution. We help clients file discreetly, request temporary orders, and begin planning for asset division and custody early on. Divorce doesn’t have to mean confrontation; instead, it can be a first step toward peace and protection.
We understand the risks involved and work quickly to secure immediate protections when needed. Whether through negotiated agreements or contested litigation, Amelia J. Mattis is prepared to advocate for your long-term safety and legal rights.
Custody Arrangements
In cases involving domestic violence, custody must be handled with extreme care. Courts in California must consider any history of abuse when determining custody and visitation.
We help clients:
- Seek sole custody where appropriate
- Request supervised visitation when safety is a concern
- Present clear, evidence-based cases for protective parenting time
- Modify existing custody orders if circumstances change
Your child’s safety and emotional well-being are our top priorities.
Parenting Plans
A detailed parenting plan can provide structure and reduce opportunities for conflict. In situations involving domestic violence, it can also serve as a protective measure by limiting contact, setting strict boundaries, and specifying drop-off/pick-up locations and communication methods.
Mattis Law, A.P.C. drafts parenting plans with an emphasis on safety, enforceability, and practicality. We consider how trauma, control dynamics, and past behavior may affect the co-parenting relationship and build plans that reduce risk and increase predictability.
Why Choose Us Over Other Marriage and Family Law Attorneys in San Diego
Choosing the right San Diego family law attorney during a crisis makes all the difference. At Mattis Law, A.P.C., we combine experienced legal guidance with compassion and discretion, particularly in emotionally charged cases involving domestic violence.
- Amelia J. Mattis was named one of the Top 10 Family Law Attorneys in California by the American Institute of Family Law Attorneys – for her client advocacy and dedication to protecting families.
- Selected as a San Diego Rising Star by Super Lawyers – based on peer reviews and independent research.
- Recognized as a Lawyer of the Year by the American Institute of Legal Professionals – for professionalism and legal impact.
- Named among the Best Divorce Lawyers in San Diego by Expertise.com – highlighting her reputation and responsiveness.
- Trained in Soberlink alcohol monitoring technology – a critical tool in custody cases involving substance abuse.
- DissoMaster™ proficient – offering accurate support calculations in high-conflict matters.
- Known for discretion, clarity, and personalized service – especially when clients are in crisis and need calm, informed support.
What Clients Are Saying About Us
Mattis Law showed great concern for my children and I-Andy Polivka (5-Star Google Review)
Mattis Law A.P.C. was referred by a prominent L.A. firm who did not practice in San Diego. The entire firm is extremely proficient and timely in their craft. In court, Amelia Mattis is extremely professional, calm, to the point and maintains superb focus when others attempt to press her. Her client preparation guidance for mediation was excellent and assisted me in avoiding turbulence no matter what spewed from my ex-wife.
Above all, Mattis Law showed great concern for my children and I during the entire judicial process. Look for this firm to remain on the California Best Attorneys List for years to come as they deserve that designation.
She is the person I would want in my corner-Athena Hwang (5-Star Google Review)
Amelia Mattis is an attorney you want on your side! I had the honor and privilege of working with her. She truly cares about her clients and provides personable representation. Amelia shows compassion during a trying time in her client’s life and takes the time to explain everything thoroughly. She advocates fiercely for her clients, is dependable, and is highly experienced in family law. She is the person I would want in my corner advocating for me.
Speak With a Trusted San Diego Marriage and Family Law Attorney Today
If the holidays have brought new tension or revealed the depth of an unsafe situation, you don’t have to face it alone. Whether you’re ready to act now or just need information, Mattis Law, A.P.C. is here to help.
Attorney Amelia J. Mattis brings compassion, experienced, and aggressive advocacy to every case she handles. From emergency protection to long-term family restructuring, we’re committed to helping clients reclaim their safety and move forward on solid ground.
Call (858) 328-4400 to schedule your free consultation today.
Frequently Asked Questions
What qualifies as domestic violence in California?
Domestic violence includes physical harm, threats, harassment, stalking, or any form of emotional, psychological, or financial abuse committed by someone you have a close relationship with, such as a spouse, partner, co-parent, or family member. It doesn’t require physical injury to be considered abuse under California law.
Can I get a restraining order even if I haven’t been physically hurt?
Yes. You can request a domestic violence restraining order if you have been threatened, harassed, or emotionally abused. California law recognizes that abuse takes many forms and does not require physical harm for legal protection.
How fast can I get a restraining order?
In many cases, a judge can issue a temporary restraining order the same day your request is filed. A hearing for a longer-term order is usually scheduled within 21 days, where both parties can present their case.
Can I file for divorce and a restraining order at the same time?
Yes. If you are ending a marriage that involves domestic abuse, you can file for divorce and request a restraining order simultaneously. This helps ensure your safety while initiating legal separation.
Will the court consider domestic violence when deciding custody?
Yes. California family courts take allegations of domestic violence seriously when determining custody and visitation. A parent with a history of abuse may be limited to supervised visitation or may be denied custody altogether.
What if my abuser controls all the finances?
You may still be entitled to financial support and access to marital property, even if your spouse has control of the accounts. Our firm can help you request emergency orders for spousal support and access to necessary resources.
Can I move out of state with my children to escape abuse?
Relocation with children requires court approval if there is a custody order in place. However, if there is immediate danger, you may be able to seek emergency custody and protection before relocating.
How do I prepare for a domestic violence hearing?
You should gather evidence such as texts, emails, police reports, witness statements, and photos of injuries or property damage. Our office can help you prepare and represent you during the domestic violence hearing to present a strong case.
What if I was falsely accused of domestic violence?
False accusations can have serious consequences in family court. If you’ve been wrongly accused, it’s important to work with an attorney who can help gather evidence and defend your rights in court.
Do I have to face my abuser in court?
In many cases, accommodations can be made to ensure your safety during court proceedings, including remote testimony or physical separation in the courtroom. We can help request these arrangements on your behalf.
Meet Our Attorney
Amelia J. Mattis
Amelia J. Mattis is the founder of Mattis Law, A.P.C., a San Diego based family law firm dedicated to guiding clients through divorce, custody, and complex family law matters with skill, empathy, and strategic focus. She is known for her calm, thoughtful approach to high-conflict cases and her commitment to helping clients feel informed and empowered throughout every stage of their case.
Amelia has successfully represented clients in multi-day trials involving child custody, relocation, spousal support, and restraining orders. She is especially experienced in cases involving parental alienation, special needs children, and emergency custody disputes.
Amelia is a certified Soberlink-trained professional, giving her added insight into custody matters involving alcohol misuse, and she is highly proficient in DissoMaster™, the court-recognized software for calculating child and spousal support in California.